“The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising everytime we fall.” Nelson Mandela
Have you ever felt broken, beyond repair, like damaged goods? Are you living in a state of fear, pain, sadness, regret, betrayal, hopelessness, despair or disillusionment?
Like it or not (I’m of the not persuasion), we need difficult experiences, those that cause us to feel broken at times, in order to grow. It is through adversity that we learn to be resilient, courageous and hopeful.
Oxford dictionary defines resilience as the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties. Resilience enables us to adapt to life-changing situations and stressful conditions, such as trauma, tragedy and serious health issues.
Resilience can be learned and developed. It can be cultivated by strengthening our inner self and our belief in our self as capable and competent. It involves a shift away from a broken mindset to a resilient mindset. I am not my mistakes. I can try again. Things will get better. I can bounce back. I am not alone. Resilient people tend to be optimistic, are confident in their strengths and abilities, are problem solvers, have a positive attitude, the ability to regulate emotions and the ability to change course and carry on.
Incorporate these 12 strategies to improve resilience.
1. Get adequate sleep. During sleep our brain is physically and cognitively restored. Adults need at least 7-8 hours of restorative sleep each day.
2. Engage in daily, physical exercise to build stamina.
3. Consume a healthy diet.
4. Make and maintain social connections.
5. Meet challenges as they occur. Avoid procrastination.
6. Embrace the power of choice. Believe you can improve and act to make thing better.
7. Reduce the risks associated with negative thinking by reframing your thoughts and shifting your focus.
8. Accept that change is an inevitable part of life.
9. Appreciate that loss or failure is an opportunity for growth. Avoid blaming yourself for what has gone wrong.
10. Look for opportunities for self discovery.
11. Take initiative and move toward your goals. One step at a time.
12. Cultivate an attitude of gratitude.
“Resilience is knowing that you are the only one that has the power and responsibility to pick yourself up.” Mary Holloway